I've talked about it before; I will again. I don't think a lot of the idea of valentines day.

Pink candy hearts and paper cards are not part my celebration of carnal, physical love, nor are they pat of my celebration of romantic love.

My kind of love leaves marks, bruises, welts. It leaves one spent. It doesn't include a sugar rush and a lot of packaging.

All that aside, though, love is what we make it, and it needs to be celebrated. We need to remember to say it out loud, and to show it with forgiveness and acceptance, respect, an open mind and an open heart.

For those to whom I've not say i love you enough lately, I do, even when I forget to say it. For those to whom I have said it, I mean it. Those words don't come lightly from my lips, and when I say they, they are absolutely real.

Happy Valentines Day, people.